Two secrets of success : life balance and growth mindset
No doubt because of the long studies in philosophy, I have always imagined that we are in our relationship to the world a kind of system in balance.
My years of experience in supporting individuals and organizations have reinforced this vision and allowed me to refine it. The systemic vision of our life inspires my daily work as a coach and as an organizational consultant.
The system in which the individual operates throughout his life can be represented as follows:
Fig. 1. – Balance between the three spheres determining our success
This simple sketch depicts the relationships we have with the three areas of our life: our inner self, our work and our relationships with others. These are 3 keys to our existential success and our personal accomplishment.
My approach to coaching is based on a concept of balance that the individual is called upon to maintain throughout his life between his constantly evolving inner self, his work, and his relationship to the signifying person (and others). ). In my work I accompany my clients in the « rebalancing » of their lives, that’s how I see my mission. But even if the balance in his life is an essential step to be happy, my experience tells me every day that this is not enough.
As David Whyte points out, in order to achieve a sense of completeness, it is also necessary to maintain the link, a kind of conversation, between the three spheres (inner self, work and the other meaning) so that they can feed themselves And support each other. When, on the other hand, the three essential areas of our lives remain siloted, our vitality and potential for change tends to diminish.
We can therefore accomplish that if we are able to re-examine the way we view love, work and understanding of ourselves by opening ourselves to a dialogue between the three summits of the triangle.
Fig. 2. Conversation between the three spheres of our lifeie
I have observed many times that whenever the circulation of energy between the three domains is restored, the person develops a greater acceptance of himself, succeeds better in his career and in his relations with the entourage . It is as if linking the different parts of life together, enabling the potential and reactivating the inner resources that each has in oneself. This path is not always simple to do yourself because it asks the person to identify his / her « blind spot » (zone of lack of clarity) and then to clarify by a suitable questioning coming from the coach (VeryclearIdeas®).
I am convinced that it is not so much our skills or talents that determine our success, but our mindset. Much research has shown that changing the mental mode of functioning from fixed mindset to growth mindset increases learning abilities and resilience In the face of adversities, and thus contributes to success in all areas of life.
As a coach, I have a holistic view of the person. I therefore accompany my clients in the path of fulfillment and invite them to consider his life as an indivisible whole. My role is to train you (much like a sports coach) to adopt growth mindset as often as possible, which will help you get closer to the situation you want to see happen.
The experience of working with my clients has taught me that these are two great levers of change!
*) My Terms of Reference: Coaching Coaching Coaching (CTI), the work of Martin Seligman, author of Positive Psychology, and Carol Dweck on different mindsets, neuroscience research, cognitive therapies Behavioral.